Lessons from Disability: Gaining New Perspectives

Reflecting on Life

By Dr Bhaskar Bora

Introduction: When Movement Stops, Life Doesn’t

There are events in life that draw a line in the sand—before and after.For me, losing mobility was one of them.

As a doctor and an active professional, my days used to move fast—flights, surgeries, conferences, calls. I thrived in that rhythm. Movement was both a part of my identity and a measure of my worth. Then came the accident.

Suddenly, walking became a task. Standing for long durations was no longer effortless. Routines had to be recalibrated, plans cancelled, and pride quietly swallowed. It felt like the world kept spinning while I was forced to pause.

But somewhere in that stillness, something extraordinary began to emerge.I started to see differently, feel more deeply, and live with more intention.This is not just a story of pain—it’s a story of perspective.

Lesson 1: Slowing Down Reveals What Speed Hides

In our go-go-go world, speed is worshipped. We equate success with busyness. But when your body won’t cooperate, you’re forced to slow down—and when you slow down, you begin to notice everything you've been running past.

I started noticing things I had overlooked for years: the comfort of a quiet afternoon, the texture of silence, the weight of unspoken thoughts.Slowing down taught me that life isn't just happening in the highlights—it's happening in the in-between.

Lesson 2: Dependence Isn’t Weakness—It’s Connection

Before my injury, I prided myself on being fiercely independent. Asking for help felt like failure.

But the truth is, losing mobility requires help. You need support to navigate not just stairs and sidewalks, but your own emotions. And in that space, I discovered something unexpected: vulnerability invites closeness.

Friends showed up. Strangers held doors and hearts open. I learned that leaning on others is not weakness—it’s trust in action. And when people lean on me now, I know how sacred that act truly is.

Lesson 3: The Body Isn’t Just a Tool—It’s a Teacher

For most of my life, I treated my body like a machine—expecting it to perform without protest. It took losing mobility to understand that the body isn’t just a tool for output. It’s an instrument of wisdom.

Pain taught me patience. Fatigue taught me to listen. Discomfort taught me to be kinder to myself.

Now, I no longer push through pain to prove strength. Instead, I ask, What is my body trying to say?

Lesson 4: Identity is Not a Role—It’s a Relationship

One of the hardest parts of losing mobility was the silent identity crisis that followed. If I’m not the "doctor who travels," then who am I? If I can’t function at full capacity, do I still matter?

The answer, I found, is yes—but not because of what I do, but because of who I am.

Disability stripped away roles I was hiding behind. What remained was a more honest version of me—one that values depth over performance, connection over titles.

Lesson 5: Empathy Deepens with Experience

I used to think I was empathetic. After all, I was a doctor. I listened. I cared.

But true empathy—the kind that sits with discomfort without rushing to fix it—only came after I experienced limitation myself.

Now, when someone talks about chronic pain, isolation, or fear, I don’t just understand—I feel it. That shift in empathy has changed how I show up for people, not only as a professional, but as a human.

Lesson 6: There’s Still Joy in the Redefined Life

In the early days, I feared that losing mobility meant losing joy—that my life would shrink in both movement and meaning. But over time, I discovered that joy isn’t attached to activity—it’s rooted in presence.

I learned to enjoy simple pleasures: writing in quiet spaces, meaningful conversations, a slow sunrise. My world didn’t shrink—it deepened.

When you stop measuring life by what you can achieve, you start experiencing it for what it truly is.

Lesson 7: Freedom Can Take a New Form

Before, freedom meant being able to go anywhere, anytime. Now, I understand that true freedom is internal.

It’s the freedom to accept where you are without shame. The freedom to adapt without resentment. The freedom to redefine your path without comparing it to the one you thought you’d walk.

My mobility may have changed. But my freedom—that lives in my mindset, in my purpose, in my will.

Lesson 8: Pain Can Be a Portal

I won’t romanticize pain. It’s hard. It’s isolating. It demands more than we think we can give.

But pain also opens a portal—to deeper awareness, spiritual growth, and emotional truth. It peels back layers of ego and illusion, and what’s left is often the beginning of transformation.

Sometimes, your second chance doesn't come wrapped in recovery—it comes wrapped in perspective.

How I Show Up Now: Lessons from Disability

Since my experience, I’ve shifted how I live and work. I no longer chase everything. I choose intentionally. I’ve begun writing, mentoring, and sharing not just the polished versions of life, but the messy, real ones too.

I still counsel students, guide professionals, and speak at events—but with more heart than hustle.

If you’re facing a loss—whether it’s physical, emotional, or professional—know this:

Losing one version of life doesn’t mean the story is over.It means a new chapter is waiting to be written—with different ink, and perhaps, a deeper message.

Final Reflection: Finding Strength in Stillness

As lessons from disability, there’s a line I’ve carried with me:“When the body pauses, the soul begins to speak.”

I wouldn’t have heard that voice if I hadn’t been forced to stop.

Mobility loss changed my life—but it also changed my lens. I don’t see the world as something to conquer anymore. I see it as something to connect with. To honour. To feel deeply.

And that, in itself, is a kind of healing.

Call to Action

Have you experienced a personal loss, injury, or limitation that changed how you see life?Share your story in the comments or connect with me personally at TheSecondChanceInLife.com.

Your story matters. And someone out there needs to hear it.

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